Hey, I See You...
You work hard to make the people around you happy.
You try to be thoughtful, caring, helpful, and easy to be around.
You pay attention to what people need and do your best to be there for them.
But often, the relationship is one-sided. They don’t pour into you the way you pour into them.
You might find yourself asking:
Why don’t people treat me the way I treat them?
Maybe you’re the one always reaching out, checking in, or trying to keep the relationship going.
After enough disappointment, it’s easy to start thinking:
“Maybe it’s me.”
“Maybe I’m just not good enough.”
This is a story I know well.
I feel so seen when I read your posts. You really get what it's like to have a parent who can't show up for you the way you need them to. I blamed myself for so long. Your words helped me see that it was never me and for that I'm forever grateful. Keep doing what you're doing.
Hello! I'm Yanique
I’m a licensed psychotherapist and the family black sheep.
I know what it’s like to feel like you’re not good enough.
And as a therapist, I’ve helped many women untangle that belief and reconnect with their inherent worth.
I believe that with a few meaningful shifts, you can reconnect with your worth and stop letting the I’m Not Good Enough story run your life.
Yanique thank you for putting in the time and sharing your work with us. I've read many books and had a ton of therapy that didn't get to the heart of things. I've gotten so much clarity from reading your work.
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Experience & Credentials
- Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)
- Master of Social Work from University at Albany
- Master of Arts Criminal Justice University at Albany
- Expert on TV One’s Fatal Attraction
- Owner of Yanique Chambers Counseling
Our parents can really put us through it! Everybody is always telling me to move on and to let the past be the past. It's nice to hear for once that what I went through was real and not just me overreacting.
Imagine this for a minute...
- You trust yourself and you don’t keep second-guessing your decisions.
- You say what you feel and feel okay afterward.
- You let yourself have needs without feeling like a burden.
- You move through your days without that constant pressure to be perfect.
- You feel settled inside and not at war with yourself.
- You trust that you’re enough without needing to prove it.
Does this version of life resonate with you?
The good news is, it’s not out of reach. Small, supported steps can help you get there.
Why This Matters To Me
When I decided I wanted better relationships and deeper connections,
I made the mistake of believing I needed to become a better version of myself.
I thought if I were more confident, interesting, or likable, I’d finally have the relationships I wanted.
So I worked on myself. A lot.
But no matter how much I changed, I still worried about whether people liked me, wanted me around, or truly valued me.
I spent years trying to become someone people would choose.
Learning about inherent worth helped me see that I didn’t have to earn love, acceptance,
I grew up believing something was wrong with me and that I had to perform to earn my mother’s love. That belief followed me into adulthood.
As I began to question it, I became more comfortable being myself, more honest in my relationships, and more present with the people I loved.
I stopped looking for other people to make me feel accepted and learned to accept myself.
That’s why I created I Am Naturally Worthy.
A space for daughters of emotionally immature parents who’ve spent years believing they’re not good enough.
Here, you can start to make sense of why you’ve felt this way for so long and reconnect with the truth that was always there.
You were never the problem.
You were always enough.
"Wow! I was really struggling for a long time and never believed things would get better. Sometimes you think you're the only one going through things and it can feel so lonely. I'm glad I found your site because I don't feel so alone anymore.